When raising or interacting with an autistic child, it’s essential to focus not only on supportive actions but also on avoiding certain behaviors and approaches that can be detrimental. These strategies also reduce the chance of autistic burnout This blog aims to provide insight into what not to do when caring for or engaging with an autistic child, helping parents, caregivers, educators, and others to foster a more supportive and understanding environment.
1. Ignoring Individual Preferences and Needs
Dismissing Personal Interests
Autistic children, like all children, have unique interests and passions that can be highly specific. It’s important not to dismiss these interests as mere obsessions or trivialities. Engaging with an autistic child through their interests can provide valuable learning opportunities and can be used to teach new skills. Disregarding what they love can lead to feelings of isolation and misunderstanding.
Overlooking Sensory Sensitivities
One of the most impactful mistakes is ignoring the sensory sensitivities that many autistic children experience. These sensitivities can include aversions to certain sounds, lights, textures, or smells. It’s crucial to recognize and accommodate these sensitivities rather than forcing the child to adapt to uncomfortable environments, which can cause distress and overwhelm.
2. Imposing Rigid Social Expectations
Forcing Unwanted Social Interactions
Expecting an autistic child to participate in social interactions in the same way as neurotypical children can be counterproductive. While social skills are important, it’s vital to respect the child’s pace and comfort levels. Pushing them into overwhelming social situations can lead to anxiety and withdrawal, rather than fostering genuine social skills.
Criticizing Unique Communication Styles
Autistic children may communicate differently, using fewer words, different types of language patterns, or non-verbal methods like gestures or picture exchange systems. Criticizing or attempting to overly correct their natural style of communication can undermine their confidence and willingness to express themselves. Acceptance and encouragement in communication are key.
3. Neglecting to Provide Structure and Support
Overlooking the Need for Predictability
A common mistake is not providing a predictable structure that helps an autistic child feel secure. A consistent routine and clear expectations can reduce anxiety and help manage daily living. Changes should be introduced gradually and with ample preparation, rather than expecting the child to adapt quickly to new situations.
Inadequate Support in Educational Settings
In educational environments, it’s essential not to overlook the need for tailored educational plans that accommodate an autistic child’s unique learning style. This includes appropriate modifications, support, and resources to help them succeed academically while feeling supported and understood.
A note from Known_Psychology
When interacting with an autistic child, it is crucial to avoid actions and behaviors that can lead to misunderstanding, distress, or isolation. By focusing on understanding and respecting their unique needs and preferences, caregivers can create a supportive environment that encourages growth and development. Remember, every child is different, and taking the time to understand what works best for an autistic child is key to their wellbeing and happiness.
